First of all, by “Southern”, I mean those who are either from the Southern states of the USA, or they have relatives there. I found this quote to explain…
“More than any other part of America, the South stands apart. Thousands of Northerners and foreigners have migrated to it … but Southerners they will not become. For this is still a place where you must have either been born or have ‘people’ there, to feel it is your native ground. “Natives will tell you this. They are proud to be Americans, but they are also proud to be Virginians, South Carolinians, Tennesseeans, Mississippians and Texans. But they are conscious of another loyalty too, one that transcends the usual ties of national patriotism and state pride. It is a loyalty to a place where habits are strong and memories are long. If those memories could speak, they would tell stories of a region powerfully shaped by its history and determined to pass it on to future generations.”— Tim Jacobson, Heritage of the South
Hey there! Good afternoon and Happy Friday to everyone. I have a VERY important announcement to make. I have the details for our screening of Lemonade, and guess what? When you book a ticket on the link that I shall now provide, you can come to ALL of the events at the WOW festival! Since we are presenting a film that promotes awareness of special needs, we may also avail of the special needs discount option, so go ahead and book your ticket. Don’t forget that the money all goes to support the Al Jalila Foundation, so by coming to my event and any of the other events at the festival, you’re supporting children in need. 🙂 Here’s the details: SCREENING TIME: 8PM
DATE: MARCH 6th, 2017
Location: A4 AL SERKAL CINEMA
and HERE’s the link to purchase your WOW Festival membership so that you can get into all events for the festival.
Being raised in the South gave me the coping methods I needed to get through it all.
Written by Dedra L. Stevenson, author of Desert Magnolia, http://www.bluejinnimedia.com
For the last 27 years, I’ve lived in the United Arab Emirates. I dress, speak and live as the people here, and I consider the UAE to be my country. I love this place, and I’m very happy to be a part of making it a better place by raising good kids, writing books, and hopefully, making life a little easier for my Autistic son.
There are other American women here who have opted to marry into this culture, embrace the religion, and help to contribute to the country in many amazing ways, but I am one of the few that are from the South, and the ONLY one from Alabama.
I was raised by a Steel Magnolia, and for those of you who don’t know what that is, it’s a prim and proper Southern lady that is tough as nails despite her dainty and elegant appearance. For those of you who’ve seen Gone with the Wind, you already know the prototype for the Steel Magnolia, Scarlett O’Hara.
Despite the odds against her, Scarlett managed to take care of her family, survive the war, and even manage to thrive under conditions that would have broken the average woman, and she did it all with a smile and a corset! She always looked “just so”, no matter what was going on, even an attack by the Yankees.
I was fortunate enough to be raised like this, and I’m proud to say that I too, have been through traumatic experiences that would have destroyed the average person, but managed to survive and “thrive” under the most dire of circumstances. I am very proud to be a Steel Magnolia, and now that I’m a part of a Middle Eastern culture, I’m proud to be the world’s first Desert Magnolia.
My son Ibrahim suffers from Autism, and in spite of having a limited offering of services available to us at the time, we have managed to raise a very sweet and loving young man, and now he’s all set to be the “poster child” for home schooling adults with Autism in the UAE. When my short documentary, LEMONADE, releases, Ibrahim will be the subject of a great deal of discussion, and hopefully, he will provide hope for others who are in his situation.
It’s been a rough go, and that’s a fact. I remember times that I was ready to give up, especially when his attacks first started. Getting him on the right medication was undoubtedly the biggest part of the puzzle that we had to piece together, and thanks to God Almighty, we have found assistance when we’ve needed it the most.
But getting Ibrahim to where he is now has been more than just adjusting his medication and his diet. We are emotional beings at the end of the day as well, and I truly believe that the compassion and family closeness that I was raised with helped me to make sure that Ibrahim received the devotion that he needed to thrive as well.
We have found amazing carers for him, and designed a wonderful home school program with a variety of activities that keep him engaged and fulfilled each and every day, and seeing this makes me incredibly proud. Just like Scarlett, when I see the family that I’ve built, it makes me so proud and happy. Finally, I have grown into the Matriarch that I was born to be.
The difference is only in the temperature and the presentation. In both the Arab world and the South, the use is the same.
Southern families serve sweet tea with just about every meal. It’s the house wine of the Southern states, and no meal would ever be complete without it. It’s not just for mealtime either, it’s for sitting around with the family or with friends, when people are just “shooting the breeze” as we say.
Arabs serve tea with every meal as well, and it’s also something to drink while socializing. People drink many cups of it every day, as the Southerners are drinking iced tea by the gallons.
English and American cookbooks report that tea has been served cold at least since the early nineteenth century, when cold green tea punches, heavily spiked with liquor, were popular. These punches went by names such as Regent’s Punch, named after George IV, the English prince regent between 1811 until 1820, and king from 1820 to 1830.
Iced tea’s popularity comes along at about the same time as refrigeration. The “icebox” as it was known was in place by the middle of the 19th century, and the term refrigerator was used for the first patented ice box in 1803. After that, the term “refrigerator” was common.
In the Middle East, coffee was the drink of choice until Indian traders began to sell tea in the Middle Eastern region, which was also in the late 1700’s. Since then, tea has been largely known for it’s heart healthy benefits and it’s pleasant taste as something you can drink loads of, as Arabic conversations tend to last for hours sometimes. (Just like Southerners)
So, whether it’s cold or hot, the two cultures are both tea cultures, and it’s become a large part of how we sit together and spend time as a family.
If you want to read a great book that centers around the idea of the two cultures being connected, have a look at DESERT MAGNOLIA by Dedra L. Stevenson on http://www.bluejinnimedia.com and sign up for our mailing list while you’re online for special offers, new products and contests. https://bluejinnimedia.com/community-signup/