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The internet made the world become smaller in many ways, but lately, it seems that the world has separated again. Rather than becoming one human species, we seem to be holding even tighter to the “US vs. THEM” mentality. Does that mean that we are in fact “devolving” rather than “evolving”?
I moved to the Middle East more than 25 years ago. You may find this hard to believe, but I hadn’t even traveled internationally before. Americans may not be surprised to read that, as it’s not uncommon for many in the USA to never even apply for a passport. In many cases, people feel that they just don’t need one.
I got one, however, and I used it. I came to the United Arab Emirates when I was 24 years old, and I did it solely for love.
I knew my husband could never be away from his family for years at a time, as he was much closer to his family than I was to mine, so I agreed to come and live here. I really felt that it was such an adventure I was going on…a new land…a new language….new customs. I had butterflies, as somehow I always knew that I’d never live my entire life in Alabama.
The trip went well, especially considering that my husband and I were coming over with our 7 month old son. I had been “briefed” by the Saudi Arabian women that I knew in Alabama on Arabic customs, and felt completely ready to meet his family.
When I actually reached the home of my mother-in-law, however, something happened that set the fear in motion. I heard that big Arabic gate slam behind us. At that moment, my heart fell into my stomach. My immediate thought at that point was, “Oh God, I’ve ruined my life! How could I have done that?”
Thankfully, once I got past the initial shock, and I got a job, my own car, and a few friends, I felt much better! It didn’t take long to figure out that people are basically the same wherever you go, and Arabs and Southern people have more in common than either group would ever imagine. We sit in the kitchen drinking our iced tea, and they sit in the kitchen drinking their hot tea. They want to be known for being the most generous people to all their friends and neighbors, and so do we. They like big homes, big cars, and luxurious surroundings, and so do we.
Once I eased into seeing our similarities more than our differences, life got a whole lot sweeter!!! Just like a big glass of sweet tea? 🙂
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