Good Manners….It’s Not Just a Southern Thing

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Have you guys had enough of bad manners?  Where have manners gone? I wish we could bring back a bit of the charm and grace of a time gone by.

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Missing the Southern Life When Trapped in a Big City

I live in a big city in the Middle East. This city has it’s good points, but I find myself missing the beauty and peaceful feeling of a small town.

When I was a kid, I never realized how lucky I was to grow up without noise, crowds, pollution and rudeness.

How I miss the open spaces, the sound of the crickets chirping at night, seeing all the stars in the clear night sky, the mountain fresh air…

I miss people who knew that it’s rude to stare. I miss the iced tea, the fresh roasted peanuts, and people who didn’t mind doing their own gardening!

And above all, I miss the people who go out of their way to help someone when they need it. Oh sure, they may gossip about you later, but until your crisis passes, they will hav your back!

Small town life…miss you more all the time…

Getting Back in Touch!

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Hi Y’all!  Sorry I’ve been away so long!  I wanted to put out this little episode just to let you know that I didn’t forget about you, and I promise to be back really soon with new episodes and new topics. This is just a little-unscripted episode to say Howdy, and to get back in touch! Peace and Light to you all.

CATCHING UP!

2016-02-01-10-52-58-370Wow, what an exciting month this has been!  I’ve been working on my own personal podcast, the podcast I  Co-Produce with my partner at Blue Jinni Media, my new cookbook, a children’s book, and a new film!  I wonder if a woman with a family to manage can put on any more duties and responsibilities?  Gosh, I certainly hope not!

The new podcast is called, Desert Magnolia, just like the novel, and I really hope that you’ll enjoy it.  I’m truly just doing that one for fun, and I’m talking about topics that I want to talk about, with no real ryme or reason, pretty much discussion / talk show style.

If there’s a topic that you’d like to hear about, please let me know!  Give me a shout out at any time, and if it’s possible, I’ll talk about it.  Be nice now, and take it seriously.  I truly do want to offer topics that matter.

Empty Nest Syndrome

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Ever since my son started his military conscription service, I’ve been thinking of this off and on. By this time next year, Ibrahim, my son with Autism, may be my only kid at home! Saeed will be back in Graduate School.  Hanan will have started a University program of some kind, and Abdullah will be in his conscription service.  My, oh my, what a change that will be!

It got me wondering though, about the expectations of a woman with grown children.  Traditionally, women at this stage are expected to accept their status as “old” and wait for grandchildren to arrive on the scene so that they have someone to bake cookies for.

The thing is…I never really was the “cookie baking type”, even when my kids were small.  I preferred to buy the cookies already made and spend my time doing things like this…blogging, writing, film making, podcasting, screenwriting, etc… I also don’t believe in age as a number, but as an attitude.  Einstein believed that time doesn’t exist and there could be countless versions of us in countless versions of the past, present and future.  So, in this way of thinking, the power of positive thinking and positive attraction stands to reason.  If you can imagine a version of yourself that doesn’t age pysically, but retains that child like attitude towards learning new things and trying new experiences, you can conceivably be young forever. .. Well, I don’t know if it’s possible, but I do know that there are NO rules anymore.  Age as a number means nothing, and there are 90+ year old people that are still athletes and active scholars and travelers. So, don’t blame me if I don’t do the expected and just sit around waiting to die.  That’s not gonna happen here, if God’s willing.

My new film project, “Just a Girl” will address some of these issues, so I’m looking forward to calling attention to that.  I’m also thinking of making an episode on female issues for my new podcast, Desert Magnolia, as well.  Let me know if there’s something you want me to discuss!

That’s all well and good, but it doesn’t really address the issue of Empty Nest Syndrome.  I know it’s something that I need to prepare for now. How do you prepare for it?

I assume that you carry on being busy and productive, whilst looking after yourself physically, mentally and spiritually.  That’s my plan at least.  However, the heart is the heart, and I know this is going to be a BIG adjustment.

What Does it Mean to be Southern?

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First of all, by “Southern”, I mean those who are either from the Southern states of the USA, or they have relatives there.  I found this quote to explain…

“More than any other part of America, the South stands apart. Thousands of Northerners and foreigners have migrated to it … but Southerners they will not become. For this is still a place where you must have either been born or have ‘people’ there, to feel it is your native ground. “Natives will tell you this. They are proud to be Americans, but they are also proud to be Virginians, South Carolinians, Tennesseeans, Mississippians and Texans. But they are conscious of another loyalty too, one that transcends the usual ties of national patriotism and state pride. It is a loyalty to a place where habits are strong and memories are long. If those memories could speak, they would tell stories of a region powerfully shaped by its history and determined to pass it on to future generations.”

— Tim Jacobson, Heritage of the South
That’s a great quote, but I’m a little upset that Mr. Jacobson didn’t include Alabama in that list.  Nevertheless, the concept remains.
Many people look at the South and think racism, marrying relatives, or uneducated.  Well, let me just say that those are ignorant stereotypes, and in the South, you can find many of the most kind hearted, friendly and down to Earth people that you’d ever want to meet.  Of course, there’s the occasional radical that stirs things up and commits atrocities, but isn’t that the case everywhere you go?
I’ve lived in the Middle East for more than 20 years, but part of my heart will always be in the South, and here’s why…
Being from the old South and raised in proper Southern ways means that you still believe in a genteel way, a way that communicates your appreciation for beauty, generosity, being a good neighbor, and a devotion to God and the land that you’re standing on.  It means smiling at a stranger and saying, “Hi”, or holding the door open for someone, helping a stranger with heavy bags or telling a joke to make everyone feel relaxed.
It also means dressing up no matter where you go, even if it’s just to the supermarket.  My Southern “lady” grandma taught me that.  She said that the very day that I decide to go in my sweat pants to the supermarket is the day that the Mayor will be there, or TV crews will be doing a story about the high prices.  She taught me to look my best all the time.  Sometimes I look around today and wonder if anyone else got that memo.
She taught me how to eat with my mouth closed and walk like a lady.  She said that a lady or a gentleman should eat and walk with no sound at all.  Until now, I hate the sound of dragging or sliding feet.
Most of all, she taught me devotion to family, and that family sticks together no matter what.  I’ve passed on a great deal of my “Southernness” to my kids, and I’m proud of that.  I may wear a hijab now and I live in a place that I have to miss the sight of open land and clear blue skies, but the best of the South is within me, and that’s been passed on. So, on that note, Y’all have a great day, and come back and see us soon, Ya hear? 🙂
Oh, and don’t forget that you can enjoy my book, Desert Magnolia in both print and as an Ebook via many online stores such as Amazon and Barnes and Noble, via http://www.bluejinnimedia.com

NEW SCREENING of LEMONADE! Book tickets NOW! :)

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Hey there! Good afternoon and Happy Friday to everyone. I have a VERY important announcement to make. I have the details for our screening of Lemonade, and guess what? When you book a ticket on the link that I shall now provide, you can come to ALL of the events at the WOW festival! Since we are presenting a film that promotes awareness of special needs, we may also avail of the special needs discount option, so go ahead and book your ticket. Don’t forget that the money all goes to support the Al Jalila Foundation, so by coming to my event and any of the other events at the festival, you’re supporting children in need. 🙂 Here’s the details: SCREENING TIME: 8PM
DATE: MARCH 6th, 2017
Location: A4 AL SERKAL CINEMA

and HERE’s the link to purchase your WOW Festival membership so that you can get into all events for the festival.

https://www.wastatickets.com/events/world-of-women-wow-women’s-day-program-membership